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If something were hurting your right now, let’s say a terrible headache, a nasty cold, a pebble in your shoe – what would you do? Just keep progressing through your day or would you take some medication or stop and remove the stone from your shoe. In other words if something is causing you pain you don’t try to keep it around.
Reflect
So take some time, get a journal out and do some reflection. Reflect on what was right in your marriage and the good things that came out of your divorce. Write down, keep those as memories and discard the rest. Now I am not suggesting you do this in a 10 minute sweep. Put some energy and thought into your growth. After all you don’t want to make the same mistakes again, so learn what needs to be learned and let go of what needs to go.
If you are stuck on “why” this had to happen or not happen you won’t move forward very fast. But none the less if you are in that season let’s look at it this way. Detours often take you down a road you might not have otherwise traveled and offer some good and bad views. Again, the letting go whatever doesn’t serve you well in your healthy growth is powerful. It is a gift you give yourself and the one who is no longer in the picture. If the divorce is over you may want to consider how much energy you are giving away into a negative and useless past.
Your Next Chapter
Have a talk with yourself and ask who is going to write the next chapter of your life story. Is it going to be regret, anger, your ex? You get to decide – see it is a chapter in YOUR life. Deal with what needs to be dealt with from the past then put a period at the end of that chapter. These are your moments and your path to design as you see fit. Don’t allow the nasty divorce or unresolved feelings to write your story. Your life story is bigger than that – you are better than that.
Get that pen and paper out my friend – start reflecting, start releasing and start writing your map for your new journey!
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