Divorce is one of the most feared events in a person’s family life. Unfortunately, or fortunately one might say, we don’t do this enough to understand how the process works. More often than not, when a person begins the divorce process, it is the first time he/she has ever walked down this path. The road less traveled can be scary and dark; that is why, when facing divorce, you need a light to guide your way. You need an advocate – a divorce coach – someone who can help you navigate the steps of the unknown.

Sifting through the path on your own can be a very daunting task. Sometimes having too many choices can be as paralyzing as only having one or two. Functioning on little or no sleep; stress being your constant companion, and fear sitting in the driver’s seat are not the best recipe for a healthy divorce. This is a time when you need a knowledgeable guide, someone to help you sort out facts from emotions, someone to take you by the hand and assist you as you learn and grow. As your partner in this process, Sandra Dopf will create a plan for you, and with you. Step-by-step you will walk this path together.

Getting Started on your Victorious Journey

To help you get started on your journey, Sandra will first help you determine what it is you desire for your life after the divorce papers are signed. This includes looking at the “after life” for you, your children, your health, your finances, your spirituality, and your emotional healing. As your divorce coach, Sandra will help you build a team of the professionals you may need to call on as you create the best resolution for your situation. This will include meeting with or retaining an attorney to understand your legal rights and to draft any settlements. In addition, you many need an accountant to address any tax consequences associated with the divorce process. A financial planner may be necessary to help you understand your settlement and how it will work in your present and future financial life. You and/or your children may need to meet with a professional counselor to address some unresolved issues. As your divorce coach, Sandra will help you assemble the best possible team to guide you through the divorce process.

A divorce can be fairly simple or quite complex; and no two divorces are the same. Oftentimes, when individuals are first considering a divorce, they seek the advice of those around them, asking where to go and what to do. Inevitably, answers vary and the person is often left overwhelmed and confused. Education is key, but you need to be working with those who understand your situation and options, and not just friends, co-workers or the people you meet in the checkout line at the grocery store. What you need is an advocate, a coach, someone who is looking out for YOU and your best interests. Someone who has the ability to map out your journey and knows how to navigate the steps to get you there.

Your Divorce Legacy

Your divorce coach will focus on your own personal challenges and obstacles because they are unique to you. As mentioned above, no two divorces are alike, and to that end, every individual has his/her own life story. We help determine what it is you need in your unique situation and assist you in making healthy, wise, educated and healing choices in the days ahead. Your divorce coach will walk beside you and break the divorce process down into bite-sized, manageable pieces. Sandra cares about YOU and the legacy that your divorce leaves behind.

As your coach i will work for you and with you by creating a plan, action steps and options on how to execute them. Each step of the way together we will prioritize your family’s well-being by keeping you focused on some of the following:

• separating your feelings from the business aspects of divorce
• focusing on the vision you want to create in your post divorce life
• thinking through emotionally charged issues
• learning to speak in a negotiation manner and not from a position of anger
• communicating effectively so you will be heard and understood both in the process and in the future
• deciding how you want to co-parent now and in the future as reflected in your parenting plan
• finding creative solutions
• understanding conflict management
• saving money and emotional energy in the process

The person you believed you would share the rest of your life with is now the same person you find yourself engaged in the divorce process with. The success and responsibility of your new life begins with you. At a time when emotions cannot be trusted and decisions are being made that will effect rest of your future, you need an educated advocate to coach you through this process.

You don’t have to be alone! You can have a divorce coach beside you. Let’s walk this journey together…