Through mediation, couples can learn to separate “spousal” issues from “parenting” issues, and work together as parents even though the marriage is ending.

Focus on the Children

The children deserve for their parents to do the best job possible to create a healthy co-parenting relationship. Divorcing couples will work toward a parenting plan that focuses mainly on the best interests of their children, rather than on their own wants and needs. Such a plan takes children’s developmental needs into account, defines conflict resolution or even conflict prevention, defines what will occur as kids grow, incomes change, and parents possibly move. In the process, when children are involved, they lay a strong foundation for working together. 

If you have children – you will be in a relationship at some level for the rest of your living years! Decide today how your children are going to remember this defining time in their lives.

• Will they hear their parents speaking negatively about one another?
• Will they have to deliver messages, bills and paper work from one parent to the other?
• Will they be pawns in the war as one parent tries to control the other? OR…
• Will they know that their parents both love them and they are free to love both of them?
• Will they feel secure and comfortable to have both parents at all their activities and special events in their lives?
• Will they know that conflict between adults does not mean they have to lose a relationship with one of their parents?
• Will they know that they will be cared for financially, emotionally and physically even though their parents have gone through a divorce?
• Will they be free to share their hearts and concerns with both parents without guilt, shame or fear?
• Will they know that they still get to be children and the adults in their lives will act like adults so they don’t have to?

The choice is yours – the parents! 

Mediation is far more beneficial in helping parents design how the two of them will continue to raise, support and parent their most precious asset – their children! Mediation works well for couples facing:

• Separation
• Redefining and building a co-parenting plan and relationship
• Crafting a “new” parenting plan due to changes with children and/or circumstances
• Issues that arise as parents live out their co-parenting relationship
• Issues that arise from remarriages and blending families